Everyone’s path to happiness is different – and we all tend to think that everyone else has it betterthan us. We see women with money, a great house and gorgeous family and we think they have it all. We meet women with an amazing career, executive car and loads of disposable income and we envy them. It stops right here! Everyone has their struggles, each one of us has our worries and every woman out there just wants to find meaning in her life and be happy. It’s time to work together and support each other on our own unique journeys free from judgement! As they saying goes;

“Girls compete with each other, women empower one another”.

Art of Seduction is all about empowering women through the transformational power of boudoir photography – just read some of my reviews if you don’t believe me! I have so many women come to my studio at the lowest point in their life. Some are recovering from emotional trauma or physical illness, and others have lost their self-confidence as they grow older and their body changes. You’d be surprised how many of these women seem to ‘have it all’.

A lot of my clients are incredibly successful and are able to provide themselves with a wonderful lifestyle. They’re so inspiring to me! But despite being able to afford luxurious holidays and to-die-for designer clothes, they still felt pretty bad about themselves. Some of them have resorted to surgery, fillers and Botox before they realized that you need to work on feeling great on the inside if you’re going to enjoy everything that life has to offer you. And that’s when they turned to Art of Seduction! It’s why I work so hard on the emotional benefits of boudoir for my divas. I make sure that every one of them feels as good as they look in my photographs!

If we want to feel good about ourselves, then we have to work on our self-confidence and accept ourselves for the beautiful women that we are right now – but there’s another step. Research has shown that inner confidence also comes from having meaning in our lives. I strongly feel that the purpose of my life is to empower women through boudoir photography – that’s what gives my life meaning – but what about you? Each of us has our own way of defining meaning – the things that are important to us, that get us out of bed in a morning – but how much time do you spend nurturing the seeds of your passion?

Want to feel good about yourself and give your life meaning? Here are some steps to take that will do just that – whatever your life circumstances.

1. Give

When we give to others, we release more ‘feel good’ chemicals in our brain. It’s scientifically proven! Research also shows that giving to a person or cause we’re personally connected to makes us feel better than donating anonymously. And remember, we’re not just talking about money – it’s just as important to give your time, ideas and energy to someone or something that needs them.

2. Connect

Human beings are social creatures – and we women are definitely on the lookout for connections! Look for it in different places. I’m not underestimating the power of close relationships, but bring more value to every interaction you have by giving it your undivided attention and staying present in the moment. Talking to a retail assistant, a conference delegate or another mom in the school yard can all provide the human connection that’s vital for our happiness. Just make sure you’re actively listening and really take in what they’re saying to you – you’ll be amazed at the difference it makes and how good it makes you feel!

3. Take Care…

…of yourself! It’s important to set aside time to make sure we’re as physically and emotionally healthy as possible. We all know that exercise of any kind makes us feel better about ourselves but do you take as much care of your emotional health? If we’re going to feel comfortable with who we are, then we need to put the work in. Don’t worry, I’m not sending you all off to a therapist! My eBook ‘Seven Days to Self-Love’ has seen some amazing results when it comes to making women feel better about themselves so why not download your copy right now? 7-Days-to-Self-Love.  In it you’ll find inspiring quotes and exercises to do each day that will steadily build your confidence in who you are. I promise you, it is possible to feel as good as you look!

4. Set Goals

It’s really important to face the future with excitement. Goals motivate us to achieve the things that are important to us. Here in Chicago, The Magnificent Mile organizes a women’s half marathon and 5K race every Labor Day weekend. It inspires women of all ages – and all shapes and sizes – to lace up their sneakers and push themselves to achieve an amazing goal. Maybe you want to lose 10lbs, find the courage to socialize more or get your career back on track after taking time out to raise your kids. Whatever you dream of, setting a goal to make it happen is a sure fire way of looking forward to a happier future.

5. Think Positive

You know how thinking negatively sends you into a downward spiral, making your mood slip even lower? Well it’s the opposite for positive thinking. Research shows that positivity sends us into an ‘upward spiral’ that keeps us feeling good long after the initial thought has passed.
Keeping a ‘good things’ diary is a great way to keeping thinking positively. In my eBook ‘7 Days to Self-Love’ I call this an ‘action for self-love’: simply take a moment at the end of each day to write down three good things you did and three good things that happened. Believe me, it’s a powerful way of bringing gratitude and positivity into your life.

So there we have it, 5 steps we can all take to find meaning and happiness in our lives:

  1. Give
  2. Connect
  3. Take time
  4. Set goals
  5. Think positive

I promise you that if we can all do a little more of these, we can all be happier with our lives – and more comfortable in our own skin. Take a moment to write these five steps down and how you’re going to include them in your daily life – and then share them with my brand new women-only support group, Daring Greatly Diva Network . It’s the perfect place to meet supportive, like-minded women who can help you achieve your goals.
I look forward to seeing you at Daring Greatly Diva Network  soon!