My mother told me I was fat and that no man would marry me. That’s when my body image issues started, my self-esteem plummeted and I lost any semblance of confidence that I had at 17.
I know this is a story that is all too common for women and if you’re anything like me it’s taken you most of your life to reverse the effects of body shaming and low self-esteem.
A lot of women on the surface have it “all”. Maybe you have a long list of accomplishments that other women would be envious of. Maybe you’ve got an incredible relationship with your husband or partner. Maybe you’ve travelled the world.
But there’s still that one thing you struggle with.
It undermines your confidence.
It consumes so much of your time, energy and mind-space.
It’s how you feel about your body.
This is exactly how I felt at 38. I had accomplished a LOT. A master’s degree in Engineering. I owned my own house. I had started my photography business on the side. I was financially stable and travelled around the world.
But underneath all of that, I struggled to feel confident, beautiful and GOOD enough.
That same year I discovered two things that would change how I felt about myself FOREVER.
The first….was boudoir photography. Although I’d been photographing other women up until then I’d never had the courage to do my own photoshoot. I cried when I saw my photos for the first time because I finally fell in love with my body.
That experience transformed the way I felt about my body and how I showed up in my life. I stopped hiding and pretending to be someone else.
The second thing I discovered that day….
From a young age, each and every one of us women has been conditioned to believe that the way our body looks defines our worth and that in order for us to be loved and accepted our body has to look a certain way.
This beauty ideal is and always has been UNREALISTIC.
And so we reach a point in our lives where we’re so exhausted from chasing our worthiness and trying to keep up with the beauty standards.
I know you haven’t come this far in your life to hide in the shadows, play small and continue to let the way you feel about your body limit you.
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So how exactly do you change the way you feel about your body and feel more confident?
You make this MIND SHIFT:
Every time you look at yourself or think about your body…you remind yourself that YOU ARE NOT your body. Your body is simply a vessel, given to you at birth to have a human experience.
Every time you look in the mirror you remind yourself this is the only body you’ll ever have in this lifetime. And that the quality of your life depends on how you treat your body.
Once you begin to make this shift you’ll notice how your confidence increases…because you are in control of taking care of your body and because you are secure in your worth and value. You’ll also notice how you appreciate and feel grateful for your body and treat your body like it’s your baby.
CONFIDENCE is the foundation for anything we want in our life.
Ladies…whether you want to:
- Start that business you’ve been dreaming of.
- Go on that first date after a divorce.
- Invest in a new wardrobe.
- Book your own boudoir photoshoot.
- Ask for a raise.
- Write your book.
- Communicate your needs and desires to your partner or husband.
Just imagine what’s possible in your life when you are rooted in CONFIDENCE?!
This is the wisdom I wish I’d received at 17 and that’s why I’m on a mission to help women see their unique beauty, change their perception of themselves, love their body and be the highest version of themselves. Give this technique a try and just watch how changing your perception of your body and yourself….changes your life.
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Hey, I’m Argentina Leyva – International Photographer, Confidence Coach and soon to be published Author
For the last 13 years, I’ve had the honour of helping over 3,000 women, using boudoir photography to elevate their confidence and self-esteem so they can live a BOLD and fulfilled life. To learn more about my boudoir photography, click here to book a FREE no-obligation confidence consult call with me today.